When Did We Stop Believing in Ourselves and Others?


Remember your response to this question when you were five? You believed you could be ANYTHING you wanted to be. An astronaut, a pop-star or in my case, a professional organizer.


When I was little I was obsessed with store windows. I loved how each item looked like it fit perfectly to tell the story of what you'd find when you walked through the doors. I'd beg my parents to take me to the mall or Main Street so I could walk by the store window displays. I was mesmerized by how bright and coordinated they looked.


Whenever I was asked, what do you want to be when you grow up I'd tell the person asking, "A professional organizer." My parents knew exactly what this meant and they supported it whole heartedly, but it confused the rest of of the people in my life. Professional organizers didn't exist and there was no such profession. I can remember being challenged with responses like, oh maybe that means you want to be a teacher, teachers need to be very organized or perhaps a scientist, they have to keep everything need and organized in their work.


No damnit, I wanted to be an organizer. Why do we do that? Why when something isn't familiar to us or "the right" response do we feel as if we have the authority to challenge someone's thoughts or in my case, dreams?


Once again society won. I convinced myself professional organizers didn't exist and saved my "organizing" skills for keeping my closet color coded and decorating at Christmas time. Turns out professional organizing does exist and can be extremely lucrative, just look at Clea and Joanna from The Home Edit. They set out on a goal to reinvent traditional organizing and merge it with design and interior styling and look where they are now, a household name. UGH - if only I had listened to myself instead of others!!


I write this post because my wish is that we all work towards taking two major steps...


First, I wish we'd all take time to reflect on our true dreams. What I mean by that is to tune into the moments when we feel alive, happy and blissful. During those moments, we must ask ourselves, what are we doing? Where are we? Who is around us? I bet we start to identify themes. Next, we need to start working on surrendering to that dream and allow it to guide us. This is going to take some major courage because we may feel most alive when we're doing something that scares us. We may be surrounded by people we barely even know or don't spend nearly enough time with. We could be in a place that seems unreachable or not some place we could consistently be in.


When we travel to this deep spot our minds are going to be full of doubt, but if we sit with it long enough we might start to find ourselves rearranging our thoughts a bit.. Well, if I let go of this maybe it could happen. Or if I spend a a little less time with them, this could work.. The chains will start to lift and we'll be able to go back into the mind of our 5 year old selves when anything was possible and envision it to happen. The first step is visualization because that's where we start making the plan of action, but then it's all about taking that first step.


The second major step I want us all to be working towards is less dream squashing. We do it all the time when someone tells us a wild and crazy idea. We're so quick to point out why it won't work. What if instead we helped this person (who by the way is probably a loved one because they are sharing this crazy idea with you) come up with ways to make this dream happen. We help to eliminate the barriers and the roadblocks rather than create more for them.


Let's go back to the good old days when we truly believed anything could happen because...it can <3


Written by: Tara Ryan

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